Its been a while .....again

Still have Mother In Law in care at the moment, so visiting almost every day, as no-one else is !.

Like other people, despite having family, we seem to be the only ones doing anything. We do feel stretched at times, and its not helped as she thinks its our duty and is not thankful at all. Oh well, she should be going home later this week, with a care package of 4 carers going in daily.

I have had a bad chesty cough for a few days which has dragged me down, but hopefully on the mend now.

Decided to have a Flu Jab over the weekend, bit of a sore arm, but nothing to write home about.

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Had a great day on Sunday, Gary had a rare day off, and we went for a lovely walk at Mt Edgecumbe, lovely weather, beautiful views over The Sound and Plymouth. Have posted a few pictures on fb.

Today making a start on the tidying of the house. Also the Christmas gifts and ideas.

Have booked a week in Kent towards the end of November, a cottage in Ramsgate, cant wait.

Thats all for today

Live, Love and Laugh, Elaine xxxx

 

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Follow up.....

Mother is staying in for a while yet, they have offered her a different room, which hopefully might help ease her mood, as the one she is currently in, has the nurses station and radio right outside, no view, right beside sime very dusturbed dementia patients, who are shouting all the time. Last night she was a bit happier, actually listening to what I said, not the usual 'I hate my life' or 'I hate it here'.

She has one of her cancelled hospital appointments rebooked for Monday, Im going to try and rebook the other one shortly.

Gary and I are trying to be more positive, which I know is difficult at times.

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Sorry for this.....just need to get it out there...

If you have an elderly relative, you might understand our stress.

Garys Mum lives alone, is 80 years old. She has never really been a positive person in all the time I have known Gary.

In the past few months she has had several falls, plus other health issues. She has been in and out of Hospital, and despite numerous tests they find nothing really wrong. She is getting more forgetful every day. She will swear black is white, is rude, arguementative.

I get numerous calls at work from her telling me she cant cope any more, wants to die, is in pain etc

She is always calling the doctor out. Luckily in one of her more lucid moments we got her to sign a letter to the surgery saying we can speak to the doctor n her behalf. So we can find out what is going on.

Currently she is in respite care, but she hates it, despite telling us all she couldnt cope at home,

She has us running around getting things for her, its unfortunate that due to family circumstances we are the only ones to be able to help. We both workfull time, and Gary is on shift work too.

She has had a care package in place for the last fewmonths, which means she has 4 carers a day going in, but because she cant or wont eat, they do nothing more than make the bed, open/close the curtains, make her a drink, she wont let them give her any personal care. One of her friends in the block who is also not a well person is the one she expects to make drinks for her, clean up after her, shop for her, and she won't say no to her. We try and do as much as we can, but MIL thinks everyone should run around after her.

Its really starting to get to me, as Im in a new job, and she is constantly ringing me, she is rude, shouts at us, wont listen, doesnt listen, expects us to be at her beck and call 24/7. I know that Gary is also struggling, so I try and do the things he shouldnt have to do, but its starting to cause problems for us at times.

Im not really sure how much more we can take, getting towards breaking point.

Thanks for listening

Elaine xx

 

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